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Statistics show that 46% of women have problems reaching orgasm. This is a result of many different factors. Firstly, the sexual response cycle of men and women is very different. Men can reach orgasm in 3-5 minutes whereas women often need 20-30 minutes to get there. If you compare making love to a journey, the man has often arrived at his destination before the woman has finished packing! That is why adequate foreplay is so important to prepare the woman for sex.

The clitoris has millions of nerve endings designed purely for pleasure and during penetration it is not getting enough stimulation. That is why so few women are able to reach orgasm on penetration alone. Ask for kind of stimulation of the clitoris, (be it oral, manual or vibratory) that brings to climax. This can be before, after or during penetration so that you can also reach the destination!

In fact, it has been shown that reaching a climax for a woman provides a positive feedback to your brain which helps with your desire for sex. So if you have problems with sex drive, make sure you have more orgasms!

Some women do not allow themselves to experience pleasure as they have been brought up to believe that “nice girls don’t”. The South Africa Sexual Health Association (SASHA) has a help line that can refer you counselling if necessary. 0860 100 262 or www.sexualhealth.co.za.

Antidepressants and some other medications can also cause difficulty with reaching orgasm. If you are on medication, speak to your doctor and ask if the medication can be changed to something with fewer sexual side.

A number of orgasm enhancing gels are on the market which can help to dilate the blood vessels in the clitoral area. This enhances the circulation and the sensation and speeds up orgasm. Make sure that the one you choose is all natural and has no irritants like menthol in it.